"You are the Hero of your own Story. The privilege of a Lifetime, is being who you are. The desire to know your own soul will end all other desires."
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
What type of counselling services do you offer?
I work with individuals, couples and with groups. I teach Family Constellations Workshops and educational webinars. I also offer a one year transformational therapy and spiritual coaching package designed to help you to move beyond the pain, get out of your own way and live your divine purpose.
No matter what the format is, my counselling packages put my clients back in the centre of their own universe. When you learn how to lead, live and love from your core, you have the power to create everything you really want for yourself.
What do you mean by "go beyond talk therapy"?
It’s been my observation from years of practice that talk therapy doesn’t fully address the roots of the issues that we face– and that after years of talk therapy one is more self- aware but the pain still persists. This is where most of my clients are when we start to work together– incredibly conscious about the problem but frustrated because the answer still eludes them. In Soul to Soul Counselling we invite your your inner guidance and the deep wisdom already possess inside of you to come forward. It’s a very profound way of looking at an issue that involves not just your mind but your heart and soul too.
How is Soul to Soul Counselling different from therapy?
As an experienced psychotherapist for 25 years, I have a plethora of experience with traditional therapy models. While I have been able to help hundreds of individuals, I find that traditional therapy brings awareness to situational problems but does not get to the root of the issues in order to transform or resolve them once and for all.
Soul to Soul Counselling goes further to identify and address the core cause of your anxiety, overwhelm, stress, intense emotions (such as anger or, sadness), relationship conflicts, challenges at work, financial and health concerns, and anything else on your mind, to create true transformation from within. I will be the guide at your side, the experienced sage who has found her way to inner peace and will light the path for you.
How do I get started?
I offer a 45-minute complimentary Soul to Soul Consultation to determine what has been holding you back, your goals, and if and how Soul to Soul Counselling can support you. (Value $300.)
To request your Soul to Soul Consultation, CLICK HERE.
Whether we choose to work together or not, I promise you’ll be inspired to continue on your path of self- discovery.
What can I expect while working with you?
Over the years, the synergy of all my trainings and experience has led me organically to hone a unique process which goes well beyond traditional talk therapy to get to the root of any problem and not only resolve it but transform what was experienced as a debilitating issue or problem into a strength and resource.
My approach to counseling has always been holistic. We humans are comprised of mind, body and soul/spirit. So, we are not just our thoughts, feelings or physical sensations which are continuously changing, often minute by minute. We are not just the cell memories our bodies contain from our own experiences and that of our ancestors.
We are greater and more profound than the sum of our individual aspects. Our soul connects us to the Source of existence and provides deep support and guidance on this earthly journey. Therefore, I believe a comprehensive, personalized approach to each of my clients is imperative.
I am guided by the light of your deep inner intelligence and follow your lead in terms of readiness, pace and even the length of our sessions together.
What is the financial investment?
Depending on your needs, therapy may take a few months to a year. I offer affordable packages and installment plans for your convenience. We will decide together the best option for you. Please know that your healing and well-being does not necessarily require years of talk therapy which keeps you in your head, analyzing your problems week after week. A unique combination of holistic therapies integrated for you will allow us to get to the source of your concern and resolve it permanently.
How long do we work together?
As long as you want and/or need to! Many of my clients are hesitant at first, and they quickly find that as they are feeling better they want to dive even further into their transformational journey. I recommend at least 6 months to start; this allows us enough time to deal with your immediate needs as well as resolve on-going challenges.
My partner would like to work with you, do you work with couples?
Absolutely! I often meet with partners or other members of the family when helpful.
Do you work with Women?
Of course! I love working with women and witnessing the benefit of doing this deep work to heal invisible wounds and find the truth they’ve been seeking within themselves.
There are things in my life that I would rather not talk about, can you still help?
Yes! We begin each session with where you are and whatever is top of mind for you, then move forward at a pace that is comfortable for you. You are in control of the direction we take.
Together we will trust your inner wisdom, and the deep guidance that comes through the synergy of our connection to bring up what will be most helpful for you to achieve your stated desires.
Your website only mentions men and women - what are your thoughts on modern gender identities?
I want to be very clear that I am open and welcoming to all people. The work I specialize in largely revolves around generational wounds and that often translates into what would be considered “traditional” gender roles and what masculinity or femininity has meant historically.
My purpose is to help men do the inner healing that will prepare them to thrive in today’s culture and modern expectations.
Why should I work with you?
The most important benefit you will attain is to remember, recover and reclaim your core self. When you are connected to yourself and your soul’s guidance, you have the internal resources, calm, clarity and confidence you need to live life authentically and make your satisfying contribution in the world.
My work and life experience have shown me that our pain, conflicts and difficulties in life are primarily the result of a disconnect from our core self and soul guidance. We are all conditioned by our society, culture family and primary caregivers — mother and father. Unfortunately, for many, the conditioning is detrimental to healthy growth and development.
Secondly, despite the best upbringing, life brings challenges and experiences which may be wounding. Some people have the internal resources and external support to move forward intact and even stronger than before. For others however, life can be overwhelming and debilitating without the support necessary to live an authentic and fulfilling life.
Family and friends all have their own perspectives to offer– sometimes useful, sometimes not. However, a skilled and empathetic therapist, who is consistently doing her own inner growth work can facilitate your reconnection with your inner intelligence and guidance to leave you strong, secure and satisfied deep within your inner being.
How did you get started as a therapist?
At the age of 31, I was reborn. Prior to that year, I was a bystander in my own life – in my career and my relationships. My survival mode and defense strategy was to try to figure out what other people expected from me, adapt and provide! People pleaser par excellence.
Then my marriage imploded. It was the wake-up call I needed to realize this fundamental fact. If I had any hope of having the life and love I REALLY wanted, I needed to put myself at the centre of my own universe and live my soul mission.
What is your professional background and work experience?
As a passionate people person, teaching, counselling and supporting people with their life issues is my life purpose and privilege. My specialty is getting to the source of clients’ relationship conflicts with family members which are often at the heart of emotional pain, anxiety, depression, stress and overwhelm. My expertise is helping people permanently resolve their problems at the source.
A thirty-year career as a secondary teacher of English and Social Sciences, has kept me honest, open, self-reflective and increasingly empathetic about our humanity. I have taught Parenting, Anthropology Sociology Psychology and World Religions. Alongside teaching, I have worked as a counsellor, healer, mediator, speaker and workshop presenter over the last twenty years.
I have also created and facilitated workshops and professional development programs for NGO’s, educators and administrators in Ontario, Canada and organizations overseas. Through this work I have gained extensive experience in community services, management, supervision and working with diversity in community building.
My formal education, training, and experience in holistic psychotherapies is grounded in Gestalt Therapy and Satir Transformational Family and Marriage Therapy. Additionally, Core Belief Engineering, Family Constellations, Shamanism, Spiritual Healing, as well as several energy healing modalities and my own soul guidance, reinforce my belief that we humans are spiritual beings having an earthly experience.
Where did you get the name Nur?
Nur is my spiritual name. I was gifted it by my Sufi Teacher. It means Light of the Divine Intelligence.
What are Family Constellations?
Bert Hellinger’s, Family Constellations, is a deeply transformative spiritual philosophy and process supported by the latest epigenetic research. Recent findings in cell biology, neuroscience and developmental psychology, confirm that as individuals we inherit the unresolved life challenges and traumas of our ancestors from three to seven generations back.
Hellinger’s revolutionary process of “soul movements“ allows us to recognize hidden family loyalties which may unconsciously compel us to carry the traumas of those who were excluded from the family. We can then release multi-generational patterns of unhealthy behaviours and inherited trauma, while honouring our ancestors, grandparents, and parents for the gift of life that has come to us, through them.
This soul-based approach to healing inherited trauma and negative life patterns, not only frees us as individuals to live our authentic lives, but also releases the fate of our parents and ancestors, alive or deceased, back to them. In this way, we also free our children from carrying burdens which do not belong to them. Constellation work empowers individual healing and the healing of past and future generations. In doing our own work, we are making an enormous contribution to our families and society.
What is a Genogram?
A Genogram is defined as a graphic or pictorial representation of an individual’s family tree which provides ancestral information beyond genealogy. A genogram traces the patterns, dynamics and psychological factors which affect relationships in a family at least three generations back.
In Family Constellations work, the genogram is used not only to discern patterns of family dynamics and relationships back through three generations, but also to discover inherited traumas based on family loyalties which reveal the deep cause of a perplexing problem for an individual.
When you draw a soul guided, three generation Genogram of your family, you will likely discover a new and enlightening perspective on your genealogy and have the opportunity to heal unhealthy emotional, relational and behavioural issues handed down through your family tree.